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Writer's Block: You must remember this
Nov. 10th, 2010 01:08 pm[Error: unknown template qotd]
Memories may influence my initial reaction to a situation where I need to make a decision, but I try to make decisions impartially. It isn't always easy and it sure as hell depends on the situation - that is to say, I'm not going to obsess over having a muffin or a butter tart with my coffee because as a kid I loved the homemade butter tarts Grandma made in the same manner as I am going to obsess over approaching that pretty face in a coffee shop that reminds me of my first date.
I think the painful memories are the ones that teach us the most. They're painful precisely because they have gotten in under our skins and made some change in us. If we discount the painful memories in making big decisions, we're missing out on a hint to a valuable lesson and personal growth.
Let's liken it to picking up a hot cast iron pan from a stove barehanded. If you do that once, you will probably NEVER do it again. The pain will teach you a lesson - do not pick up hot pans without oven mitts.
Painful emotional memories seem to me to be teaching us a similar lesson. Speaking from the best teacher - experience - I have to admit it takes time to get to the point where you can embrace the painful ones to learn the lesson. Once you do, you're better off and a little wiser for the lesson learned.
Memories may influence my initial reaction to a situation where I need to make a decision, but I try to make decisions impartially. It isn't always easy and it sure as hell depends on the situation - that is to say, I'm not going to obsess over having a muffin or a butter tart with my coffee because as a kid I loved the homemade butter tarts Grandma made in the same manner as I am going to obsess over approaching that pretty face in a coffee shop that reminds me of my first date.
I think the painful memories are the ones that teach us the most. They're painful precisely because they have gotten in under our skins and made some change in us. If we discount the painful memories in making big decisions, we're missing out on a hint to a valuable lesson and personal growth.
Let's liken it to picking up a hot cast iron pan from a stove barehanded. If you do that once, you will probably NEVER do it again. The pain will teach you a lesson - do not pick up hot pans without oven mitts.
Painful emotional memories seem to me to be teaching us a similar lesson. Speaking from the best teacher - experience - I have to admit it takes time to get to the point where you can embrace the painful ones to learn the lesson. Once you do, you're better off and a little wiser for the lesson learned.
